Creating Conscious Wedding Planning Roles: An Interactive Exercise for You and Your Partner

We’ve been spending some time lately dismantling traditional gender roles within wedding planning, and supporting you to contemplate and define your wedding planning role in a way that feels good to you, aka not predetermined based on your gender. This Kinship Moment exercise will help you to talk about this with your partner, by asking each of you to think and share about your roles in wedding planning, in order to help determine how to delegate responsibilities, how to support each other, and how to use this time to connect more deeply. We are all about using engagement to create a conscious foundation of your marriage, bringing intentionality to the wedding planning process is a wonderful way to begin building that.

How this works: Each partner should take turns asking the below questions of the other. The "asking" partner should then remain quiet, actively listening, and rather than immediately going into any problem-solving, instead look for the emotional meaning in the answers and validate that.

+ How would you define your role in our wedding planning process?

+ Where did that role come from? What influences helped to create that role?

+ Are you enjoying this role? Are there limitations to it?

+ What about our wedding gets you most fired up and excited? Do you have enough space in the wedding planning process to act on that excitement?

+ Are there aspects of your role that I can help you change? How would I do that?

This exercise is meant to prompt meaningful exploration and dialogue about your wedding planning roles! Let it be fun! We're excited to hear how it goes!